Well, J.J.'s mother has chosen a private adoption for him. She believes this will allow for more openness and visits she wouldn't otherwise have. This is probably true. Now we have to decide if we should keep him until the new family is chosen and transition him, which could be a couple of months, or have him moved now. We're torn. On the one hand: is another move good for J.J.? Where would he go? Would they take good care of him? Don't we want to see this through, finish what we started? Teach the boys that we complete things to the best of our ability even when it's difficult?
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On the other hand: Am I strong enough (or willing) to continue to bond to J.J. and care for him knowing that another family was chosen over mine and I'll have to give him to them? Is it good for my boys to continue to bond to him? What if another child comes into foster care that could be ours, but we're in limbo with Joshua and the child is placed elsewhere? Back and forth, back and forth. Micah has left it up to me. I'll see what our caseworker says...
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